What is your monologue?  What is the story you tell yourself and others?  The story we tell ourselves about situations, circumstances, romances, our choices, our life as it is.  Have you sat down lately to ask yourself what story you are telling yourself every day?  What are the things you continually tell yourself and others?  And which of them is truth and which of them seems to be truth but is actually serving a habit, thing, and/or person in your life that perhaps is not the best thing for you.

This thought process for me about the stories we tell ourselves originated in class when we were talking about how one of the students lives quite a ways from the acting studio.  My coach said that she always says it’s not far at all, yet somehow is often struggling to make it on time.  He then said it reminded him of when he lived far from the studio and work and he kept telling himself it was not that bad. Even though it took SO much of his time. Than one day he looked at the time it took him to get to work realistically and he said….NO MORE! IT’s time to move. This is too far, causing too much stress, taking too much time. I don’t believe this story I keep telling myself; the truth is I DO live too far from work period. And so he moved. 🙂  Now when he looks back he chuckles at the silly story he was telling himself because REALLY; he did live a considerable distance from the studio and it WAS eating up valuable time from his life.

I personally have had many AH HA moments in my life! Moments where it was time for me to change my script about situations in my life. Such as the time I decided to leave Lincoln, NE for college. Such as the time I chose to divorce my husband and move to Los Angeles. In Los Angeles I’ve changed my script so many times in terms of how I was choosing to live. I’ve went from having many jobs to the extreme commitment of becoming a professional actor and I have quit jobs that were not serving that path. I have broke up with lovers; knowing that we were no longer serving each other’s lives for the greatest good. Knowing that we had taught each other the lessons and shared the things we were meant to share with eachother; but that it was time for us to move on. Things come in and out of our lives all the time. Sometimes not by choice; however most times because of our choice. I know there are many instances when I have looked back at how I was living in a specific time and I think “What was I thinking?”  I found that If you really dig into it carefully and remember back on the stories you were telling yourself; there usually is a rational explanation to even the most “idiotic” choices in our lives. There is always something we are telling ourselves that supports the choices we are making on a day to day basis.

So what are the new stories I want to live my life by?  What words and configuration of those words will be my driving force in the next few months? It’s so exciting when you realize that at any point in your life you can change the story you tell yourself and others.  AT ANY POINT IN TIME; you and I can wake up and say to ourselves “Today my script is…”  Now just fill in the blanks and commit.

“All the world is a stage” says the genius William Shakespeare.  So what kind of character do you want to be? What kind of character are you now? What is a part of your arc? What are the obstacles that you will have to overcome to be the hero in your life? We all have challenges; and what is even more exciting is that we all have a HERO in our heart. Just waiting for us to call ACTION! And I believe that by finding our own HEROES; we will most definitely change the world to be the absolute best it can be!